Tgwaste
Well unfortunately the game is not very populated. If I had to rely on getting a team (which I have never managed to do, not once) then I would be sitting %99.9 of the time instead.
I am really surprised to hear you say this while being a Monk's member as they have always been helpful with their new members in the past. Perhaps your times just are not matching up. That being said, get trekked around so you can meet up with other new players in the other capitals.
I always advise that xp/hour is better than xp/kill. So, if you are working solo, don't look for the 3K max/kill, but find something that you can kill quickly and not use much stats (or time it to be used up with your heal cooldown) and have at it. You will find that by the time you add in healing up time, you usually make more xp/hour with less xp than what you get per hour using the per kill method. When I solo level I usually don't look for a new mob until I get around 800xp/kill (at levels 1-50 300-500 is even ok) and it has not heald me back.
You can also do the occupations as Daomei has suggested, or check with your guild to see if anyone has already been doing those and they have some extra potions they could give you (or even just ask if any water carrier or magnetic cartogrpaher are online). The potions are best used for solo leveling so if someone is/has been doing the occupations they probably have some they could give you.
Good luck and happy hunting.
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Peace, Luv & Cookies,Inifuss